starting the story.

So I have been debating how i want to start this for a while. I am not skilled in writing, or putting my thoughts and opinions in any form of writing. And to be honest i really am not a good speller at all. But this year I am studying to become a family counselor. I was hoping i could share things that i have learned and opinions that i have about the family. So just to clarify i do not have a family of my own and i am unmarried so i am not really the best judge on things but i had a wonderful family raise me and i am studying really hard about the family unit.Today was pretty interesting. i have three classes that i attend about families and children , all of them are really interesting. one of them is a morning class, and truthfully i am not a morning person. i struggle a lot to get to class and to stay awake. but i am glad i did today. in my class we talked about relationships and what has become the norm now then what it would have been twenty years ago.i think what stuck out to me was the fact that what i know to be natural now, would have been a disgrace to my own parents when they were my age.one of the things we talked about was the importance of a father in the home. don't get me wrong i know kids get excited to see mom too but there something about a dad that changes things. fathers hold such huge role in children's lives. i know that with my dad i would not be who i am today, and yes i understand that not everyone has a dad some may have just mom some may have two moms or some might just live with their grandparents. but that doesn't mean that there was not a male influence on your kid at some point in there lives.my dad worked as a fireman, he work long hours and sometimes i wouldn't see him during the week but he always made time for me when he was home and i remember him alway picking me from school on his breaks so that we could get something to eat and i could tell him about my week. these are memories with dad. just going for rides and talking about whatever. we also talked about how now a days not many people get married anymore and if they do not everyone wants kids. that fine i just thought it was interesting how we go from a culture of the idea of living with your significant other before marriage was absurd to it being one of the many step we take in seeing if this person is someone we want to spend our life with.or even intimacy before marriage was frowned upon years ago but now its normal to go out and intimate with someone you think or know you love. not everyone thinks the same though i have friends who often question me on why i never move in with a boyfriend let alone let them get to second base. for me all that is sacred your letting someone in your life and trusting them when you are vulnerable that's really scary. but to others its and exciting new adventure that people shrug off nowadays. but for me that's something i only want to do with the person i vowed to love my whole life if do that before there's no special meaning to it anymore. you may disagree but this opinion i don't want to share the most special parts of me with someone i am not sure of being with. so i encourage a lot of youth to wait till marriage to share that sacred part of themselves because for thing it mean a lot to you future spouse if they knew they were your first. and study that couples who wait till marriage to have intercourse have less of a chance for divorce. i know i have sprong a lot on you but this is my first time writing about this stuff and you might not even care but i care and i to share. a fairytale dose start until you hear happily ever after that's what i believe. so this may not make since but i will get better i hope you all are enjoying your stories and with time this might mean something.